Those Three Magical Words: Trust, Communication, & Intimacy
By: Gideon T. Russell

We have all been in relationships, and we all have had questions and concerns about what to do. Rather you’re in or out of a relationship, rather you are going into a new one, or no matter what level you are at, there are tools that we all need to build up our skills to improve our relationships.

What strengthens a relationship?  That’s the question of the day.  Today I'm going to focus on three topics that can drastically improve, enhance, and/or rejuvenate our relationships.  There are a lot of things that can make or break a relationship.  There are a lot of books, brochures, pamphlets, get fixed quick ideas all trying to tell you, “How to improve your relationship”.  I'm “gonna” focus on the top 3 that I believe can drastically make what you have better, or show you how to get the relationship that you always have wanted.

 The three I believe that can have a big impact on your relationship are; communication, trust, and intimacy. I believe through the channels of communication, you create a trust and a bond with your mate.  Once you have that trust, once you have that bond then it creates intimacy.  Once you have intimacy that’s when you have opened up and unlocked the next levels of your relationship.  For those that don’t know, there is more to intimacy than just love making.  Intimacy is trust, intimacy is communication, intimacy is uniting with your mate.  To get to intimacy you have to put in the work, you have to put in the dedication.  It won’t be easy starting out, but follow the steps we are about to go over then you will have a better relationship for it.

There are not many things that improve a relationship like communication trust, and intimacy.  It doesn’t really matter if you been together a few days, a few weeks, a couple months, or if it has been a few years, or decades. Uniting with your mate, through passion and moments together are the key parts of a successful relationship.  In life each and every one of us wants to be cherished and valued highly, we want to be desired and needed.  You may not have a lot of money, that’s fine.  Make up for the lack of finances with your time and energy.  With the time you do have, make the most of it, and watch your relationship grow.  Make each moment magical, make each moment memorable.  Remember, it’s the small things that count. 

So now let’s focus on the meaning of communication.  Communication is the process of transferring information from a sender to a receiver.  When you are in a relationship, which consist of a man and woman in a committed long term relationship there are more guidelines that go along with communication. 

Some tips to remember:

• Remember that in every conversation; rather it’s a normal talk or argument that the goal is to find a solution that works well for both sides.  Both sides may not be happy with the solution, but it should be a happy median that both can deal with.
• Always remember to be loving and respectful of each other.  You may not like the situation or the person at that moment, but you do the love the person.  Remind yourself that you are in Love.
• Whenever you argue, aim to begin the conversation with “I” instead of “You”. Make the conversation about you and your feelings instead of downing the other person.  “I’m upset when this happens, instead of “You suck, you always do ________”.  You will get a more positive reaction, and the other person will not feel attacked. 

Take the time out to get to know your mate.  Turn the television off and truly listen to and speak with your mate.  Get a relationship book that requires you to ask and answer questions that require the both of you to think, both of you to interact.  As you converse with your mate, and truly show interest in their inner most feelings, thoughts, and concerns, they will grow closer to you.  Remember to smile, laugh, and have a good time as you talk with your mate. 

Other words that can be used in place of communication are conversing, speaking, exchanging information, and expressing feelings.

When you have communication it creates trust in relationship.  So open up and allow your mate to truly trust you. As they trust you the intimacy will grow.

So now let’s focus on the meaning of trust.  Before you trust anyone else, you must first trust yourself.  Open up; if you want to become more intimate with your mate, you have to build up trust. Don’t be afraid to open up; share your inner most feelings, thoughts, and concerns.  Just think, you may be afraid of opening up, but your partner may be afraid of being hurt. So open up to your mate, open up to the deep secret things that you hold onto and watch as they begin to trust you more and more.  As you communicate more of your inner feelings and thoughts, they will trust you with their feelings, trust you with their emotions, trust that you will not hurt them, and also trust you with their inner most feelings and thoughts.

Trust means you have the utmost confidence in another person or something.  You want trust, then you have to step out of your comfort zone and trust first.  Truly getting to know your mate allows you to grow in trust together.  Continue to create an environment of trust.  Do whatever you have to do to not lose the trust your mate has in you.  Yes, temptations are all around, but stay dedicated and it all will pay off.  Trust creates intimacy in a relationship.  True communication creates the trust; then, trust leads to intimacy

Other words that can be used in place of trust are confidence, faith, belief, and reliance.

So now let’s focus on the meaning of intimacy.  Intimacy can be expressed in a variety of ways; physically interacting, sharing of your inner most thoughts and feelings, taking care of each other, and spending time together.  Trust and intimacy go hand in hand.  There must be trust in order to have intimacy. To get to trust you have to have communication, so all three work together. When all three are in action, it works magically.  It works wonders, and can make all the difference in a loving relationship.

Other words or phrases that can be used in place of intimacy are deeply personal, innermost, and confidential.

As you strive to grow closer in your relationship some keys to focus as you mature.

• Aim to make time for each other despite all the chaos that’s around
• Understand that both of you are different
• Figure out who you are, spiritually & mentally
• Stay committed and faithful to each other
• Get rid of barriers that can harm your relationship (relationship  blockers)

Figure out ways to have fun together. (Remember “Live, Love, Laugh”)

• Every moment together make sure it has value
• Learn about your mate’s attitude, feelings, and things that make them tick
• Aim to avoid common relationship problems. (Finance, communication, etc.)
• Communicate, talk, open up, and be expressive.
• Grow spiritually together, join a church, read the bible and other positive books.

Remember Communication leads to trust, and trust leads to intimacy.

Communication, trust, & Intimacy

Ladies if you follow the guidelines of these 3 magic words, you may hear the four magical words soon.

Now fellas, if you follow the guidelines of these 3 magic words, you will see that your mate will open up to you in ways that never has happened before.  Couples get ready for a great change in your relationships. Get ready to explore love through communication, trust, and intimacy.