Why Ask Why?
Every morning I wake up I look at myself in the mirror and I asked
myself why am I overweight? I come up with various answers that fit into
the norm such as I do not exercise enough, I don’t eat right, or it’s
hereditary. But none of those answers satisfies me anymore. I mean, I
asked myself these questions all the time and the answers always end up
the same. Instead of me making changes I continue with the same
regiment. So what I decided to do is make small changes in my life.
Instead of taking the elevator; I take the stairs. Instead of eating
until I’m miserable; I stop when I am full. Instead of wearing loose
fitting close; I wear clothes that tighten around my stomach and waist to
help support my stomach muscles. I also do leg lifts in my office
chair and sit on the edge of my chair and do sit ups. This works out
both my lower and upper stomach muscles.
I, for one am tired of making up excuses as to why I am overweight. I
decided I was going to take a stand and make my own changes and decide
my own future. Making these changes in my life doesn’t mean that I am
not happy with who I am, for I will always be a devastating diva! In
fact, it says quite the opposite. I have to be around to make sure that I
am blessing the world with my presence and that I am here to take care
of those who need me and who needs me more than me. You have to
remember that you are number one and you are your own worst enemy.
If you do not like who or what you see in the mirror, then make the
necessary changes. Start with small steps and then work your way up to
larger one. It is important that you realize that it is not good to
criticize yourself in the process. If you fall down then just simply
pick yourself back up. Be an example to yourself.
Loving You
I have been a full figured woman all my life, thus being full figured has not been an adaptation for me but a away of life. However, there are women out there who are new to being full figured and they may feel they are fat, overweight, unhealthy, and just plain detestable. This is where low self-esteem starts. It settles in and the love for one's self starts walking out the door. We as women speak of giving unconditional love to our men, our children, our families and our friends. However we do not know how to begin to give that same unconditional love to ourselves. As women we are taught to be strong and never let anything effect us. This may be the case in public but when we go home all gloves come off. We are depressed and the love for ourselves is just not there. We criticize ourselves and put ourselves down and talk about all the changes we want to make. But we don't truly know who we are in order to make the necessary changes. Now I ask, how can you fix something when you do not know what is truly broken? The answer to this questions is that you can't.
As women we have to reintroduce ourselves to two powerful phrases "Self-Love" and "Self-Esteem." Why can't you love yourself and why do you feel you do not deserve to be loved. When I look at myself as being a full figured woman I see a beautiful black female with gorgeous curves, a beautiful smile, a healthy spirit, and more love for myself than I know what to do with. Worrying about what others say about me does not shape who I am and the opinions of others will not change my opinion of myself. It took me a while to learn this, but not as just being a full figured woman but as a being a woman period. I share this with all of my beautiful curvy women because it is time for you, for "us" to step up and start loving ourselves for who and what we are. Beautiful, Curvy Women with a lot of to offer.
Please Start Loving You!!!
I have been a full figured woman all my life, thus being full figured has not been an adaptation for me but a away of life. However, there are women out there who are new to being full figured and they may feel they are fat, overweight, unhealthy, and just plain detestable. This is where low self-esteem starts. It settles in and the love for one's self starts walking out the door. We as women speak of giving unconditional love to our men, our children, our families and our friends. However we do not know how to begin to give that same unconditional love to ourselves. As women we are taught to be strong and never let anything effect us. This may be the case in public but when we go home all gloves come off. We are depressed and the love for ourselves is just not there. We criticize ourselves and put ourselves down and talk about all the changes we want to make. But we don't truly know who we are in order to make the necessary changes. Now I ask, how can you fix something when you do not know what is truly broken? The answer to this questions is that you can't.
As women we have to reintroduce ourselves to two powerful phrases "Self-Love" and "Self-Esteem." Why can't you love yourself and why do you feel you do not deserve to be loved. When I look at myself as being a full figured woman I see a beautiful black female with gorgeous curves, a beautiful smile, a healthy spirit, and more love for myself than I know what to do with. Worrying about what others say about me does not shape who I am and the opinions of others will not change my opinion of myself. It took me a while to learn this, but not as just being a full figured woman but as a being a woman period. I share this with all of my beautiful curvy women because it is time for you, for "us" to step up and start loving ourselves for who and what we are. Beautiful, Curvy Women with a lot of to offer.
Please Start Loving You!!!